It’s time to ask for what you’re worth—with calm, clarity, and confidence
Published about 1 month ago • 9 min read
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Set time aside at least twice a day to check in with yourself. Deepen your breathing, feel your body, and gently remind yourself that you are safe and supported.
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Over the next few weeks, we’ll be exploring ways to increase or create income. That means I’ll still talk about stress (it’s always connected), but through the lens of empowerment—how taking calm, purposeful action can ease the anxiety that financial uncertainty brings.
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🌱 Starting with Asking for a Raise
Let’s begin this series by talking about raises—how to prepare, how to ask, and how to stay on track for future growth.
You’re not alone in feeling uneasy about it. According to a 2024 PayScale study, roughly 70% of employees who ask for a raise actually receive one, yet most wait a year or longer than necessary to even try. The truth is, the cost of living doesn’t wait for performance reviews, and neither should your self-advocacy.
Before you ask, spend time preparing:
Write down everything you’ve contributed that’s made a measurable difference—how you’ve saved time, increased revenue, reduced stress on your team, or improved workflow. Use numbers or tangible examples where possible.
Then, ask yourself what kind of future you want within your company. When you approach your manager, express curiosity about what they need and how you can grow toward those goals. This turns the conversation from a transaction into a shared investment.
My husband’s path to becoming a high-paid manager started exactly this way. He didn’t wait for his review—he initiated a conversation about his role, his goals, and how to bring more value to the company. And he continues to do that while adding in a whole bunch of value to the company he works for. In fact, they have fought to keep him several times when he has tried to leave.
Here’s something many people get wrong: you don’t have to wait for your yearly review. Promotions and raises can happen whenever you’ve proven your growth and value. It’s about alignment, timing, and courage, not the calendar.
🪴 What Not to Do
Avoid framing the conversation around personal needs—phrases like “I need a raise because everything’s getting expensive” make the request sound emotional instead of strategic. Stay focused on the value you bring.
Don’t surprise your manager, either. Schedule a meeting specifically for your professional development. This shows confidence and respect, and it helps create a space where both of you can be fully present for the conversation.
If you’re not sure how to ask for the meeting, keep it simple and professional. You could say something like:
“I’d love to schedule a short meeting to discuss my current role and how I can continue to grow within the company. Do you have any time later this week or next?”
If your manager asks what the meeting is about, stay calm and confident. You don’t need to lead with the word raise right away—it’s often more effective to begin with curiosity and collaboration. Try something like:
“I want to review my recent progress and make sure my goals align with the company’s priorities. I’d also like to talk about ways I can continue developing in my position.”
This phrasing keeps the tone open and professional while planting the seed for a raise discussion. It also signals that you’re proactive and invested in the company’s success, not just your own. Once you’re in the meeting, you can share the value you’ve brought and naturally lead into the compensation conversation.
Think of this as a partnership conversation, not a performance test. You’re opening the door to a shared future, one that recognizes your growth and invites mutual investment.
Finally, don’t go in without practice. Talk it through with a friend, partner, or mentor. Even saying it out loud to yourself helps your nervous system adapt to the conversation. You can even practice with me if you would like.
Try opening with something like:
“I’ve been reflecting on my contributions this year and how they’ve supported our team’s goals. I’d love to talk about my continued growth here and how my compensation might reflect that progress.”
That’s clear, calm, and collaborative—exactly the tone that keeps relationships strong.
💫 Remember the Heart of It
Financial wellness is emotional wellness. When you advocate for yourself, you’re honoring your worth and building stability that nurtures every other part of your life. Take a slow breath. Picture yourself speaking with confidence and clarity. You’ve got this.
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What does this stir in you today?
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📝 Journal Prompts
When was the last time I clearly named the value I bring—to my job, my home, or myself?
What fears or beliefs come up when I think about asking for more—money, time, or respect?
How would my life feel different if I trusted that advocating for my worth strengthens everyone around me?
🌸 Grounding Affirmations
Speak these aloud or whisper them to yourself:
“My work has value, and it’s safe for me to be recognized and compensated for it.”
“I approach conversations about my future with calm confidence and clarity.”
“When I honor my worth, I create balance and abundance for myself and those I love.”
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